Good morning, I’ve been busy getting scared today. How about you?
It’s an exhilarating feeling to face my greatest fears.
Yet, I feel compelled to confess that sometimes, my fears are surprisingly small, perhaps even insignificant, to everyone but me.
What does fear look like in my life? Why do I hold these fears? Is there a common denominator?
When I shine light on what scares me, even with the smallest of actions, such as making a list, I release some of my fear.
It’s startling to confront a few of my biggest fears, only to realize that it was my inaction that gave them power.
Yup. Let me repeat that:
My lack of action gave my fears power.
Maybe you’re giving away power somewhere in your life as well?
Today, I caught myself handing my power over to a postage stamp. That’s right. I was in the middle of convincing myself of the truth in this lie:
That because I didn’t have a stamp, I couldn’t send an application off in time and therefore I shouldn’t bother applying.
A postage stamp. (shaking my head) I know the price has gone up, but that’s a weak excuse, even for me.
To make up for it, I sent my application in and then: I had a few tough conversations that I’d been putting off. I shed some guilt. I gave myself permission to take some time off from a relationship. I embraced an opportunity to connect and engage in my church. I scheduled a few daunting appointments that I didn’t want to face. I said “Yes” even when my little inner voice kicked up a “No!”
And I worked again on a few longer-term scary projects. I’ll share details in the days to come, I promise!
You see, I’m finding that some of my deepest, darkest fears revolve around the pieces of my life that I invest in, the projects that I’ve set aside for the daily to-do’s, the regrets that I cling to when there simply seems to never be quite enough time.
These aren’t fears of being rejected for a last-minute adventure or a crazy off-the-cuff request.
These are fears that run deep, to the core of who I am, my life’s work and how I want to serve in this world.
How I want to remember myself and how I want others to remember me. There’s something potentially crushing about putting those dreams out into the world. I might fail. I will definitely make mistakes. The story will unfold and I will lose control over how it plays out – whereas in my dreams, I have complete control.
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Wayne Gretzky
This quote has stayed with me since my time working with NIKE. I'm taking all of the shots these days. Mind you, not all willy-nilly. I am doing the appropriate set-up and taking intentional action. Some of my shots are still messy and some will inevitably fly far to the outside. But it feels really good to be back in the game.
I am shining light on my fears. Each consistent little action shifts another of my biggest fears into one of my biggest risks. And that feels mighty redeeming.
Now I feel like I can hold my head up high again and say: I am brave. I am living into my fears.
There’s a curious sense of relief in digging into these places. Freedom. That little postage stamp was right.
Even if the risks don’t pay off, I feel lightened. I’m coming to terms with the ways I’ve curated fearful situations into my life. I’m witness to the patterns and those old ways no longer serve me.
If you’ve missed any of my From Fear to Love in 40 Days challenge, here’s a glimpse of what I’ve been up to so far:
Day 2: I shared a real, messy truth
Day 3: I unplugged
Day 5: I gave myself permission to step away
Day 6: I bought a stamp, shed and embraced
Day 7: I put my name in the hat
I’m curious, what would you do if you weren’t afraid?
From Fear to Love in 40 Days. Join me.
With Love and a BIG Warm Hug,
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